Oct 10, 2021Liked by ๐ท๐๐ธ๐ธ๐ถ ๐ช๐ฅฉ๐ธ๐ธ
Among other things, this story is also specifically about Boston, the old school insularity and cliquishness of its art scene, and the unmerited sense of moral superiority of its elites.
I just want to understand, if the way Dawn communicated w the publishers (and feared/suspected publishers) of her work under Sonyaโs name was โgrossโ, what was the alternative? What is the โnot grossโ way? Sonya had already lied to her, creeped on her private information, and - as she ultimately learned - literally stole her words. What would this internet accept as the way to address these things?
very high school vibes to this story. sonya's the shitty fake-nice bully, and dawn's the ugly loser horse girl with bad acne who tattles when she finds out sonya doesn't think her "braids are pretty cool, actually." instead of deriding the bully for being an immature bitch the Internet just wants to dunk on the loser cus no one likes a do-gooder snitch
i think there are some inaccuracies here because the stories being shared still have traces of bias towards sonya. dawn didn't email all those organizations asking about her, but asking about their plagiarism policy, which the letter was! dawn also put in the initial invite that she was adding people she considered close friends and that anyone who wasn't comfortable with that was free to leave with no judgements, and sonya stayed in a groupchat where she posted her own sensitive personal medical information. admin powers let dawn see that sonya was reading literally everything and lurking in a chat for close personal friends - socially awkward to email, but also not as insane as "you didn't like my facebook post". finally i'd feel remiss not to mention the fact that dawn publicizing her donation actually saved two more lives by convincing others two donate their own kidneys - something gone tragically underlooked with all the discussion of narcissism and "needing praise" when in actuality being public and open about this experience can save people's lives.
Among other things, this story is also specifically about Boston, the old school insularity and cliquishness of its art scene, and the unmerited sense of moral superiority of its elites.
The only good take on bad art friend
I just want to understand, if the way Dawn communicated w the publishers (and feared/suspected publishers) of her work under Sonyaโs name was โgrossโ, what was the alternative? What is the โnot grossโ way? Sonya had already lied to her, creeped on her private information, and - as she ultimately learned - literally stole her words. What would this internet accept as the way to address these things?
Iโve spent far too many hours on this whole saga and this is by far the best take Iโve read so far.
Thank you thank you thank you
very high school vibes to this story. sonya's the shitty fake-nice bully, and dawn's the ugly loser horse girl with bad acne who tattles when she finds out sonya doesn't think her "braids are pretty cool, actually." instead of deriding the bully for being an immature bitch the Internet just wants to dunk on the loser cus no one likes a do-gooder snitch
This is so fucking good๐ฅฒ
i think there are some inaccuracies here because the stories being shared still have traces of bias towards sonya. dawn didn't email all those organizations asking about her, but asking about their plagiarism policy, which the letter was! dawn also put in the initial invite that she was adding people she considered close friends and that anyone who wasn't comfortable with that was free to leave with no judgements, and sonya stayed in a groupchat where she posted her own sensitive personal medical information. admin powers let dawn see that sonya was reading literally everything and lurking in a chat for close personal friends - socially awkward to email, but also not as insane as "you didn't like my facebook post". finally i'd feel remiss not to mention the fact that dawn publicizing her donation actually saved two more lives by convincing others two donate their own kidneys - something gone tragically underlooked with all the discussion of narcissism and "needing praise" when in actuality being public and open about this experience can save people's lives.
It had to be said. Thank you.
I loved this. Thank you for writing it.
Becca this is outstanding