Among other things, this story is also specifically about Boston, the old school insularity and cliquishness of its art scene, and the unmerited sense of moral superiority of its elites.
I just want to understand, if the way Dawn communicated w the publishers (and feared/suspected publishers) of her work under Sonyaβs name was βgrossβ, what was the alternative? What is the βnot grossβ way? Sonya had already lied to her, creeped on her private information, and - as she ultimately learned - literally stole her words. What would this internet accept as the way to address these things?
I actually fully agree w/ you β at the time I wrote this, I hadn't yet read the threads about the elegal docs, which made it clear that Dawn was in the right p much the whole time. Haven't decided if I'm going to edit the post yet b/c it reflects what was going on at the time I wrote it, but yes, you are right, and Dawn was right!
very high school vibes to this story. sonya's the shitty fake-nice bully, and dawn's the ugly loser horse girl with bad acne who tattles when she finds out sonya doesn't think her "braids are pretty cool, actually." instead of deriding the bully for being an immature bitch the Internet just wants to dunk on the loser cus no one likes a do-gooder snitch
i think there are some inaccuracies here because the stories being shared still have traces of bias towards sonya. dawn didn't email all those organizations asking about her, but asking about their plagiarism policy, which the letter was! dawn also put in the initial invite that she was adding people she considered close friends and that anyone who wasn't comfortable with that was free to leave with no judgements, and sonya stayed in a groupchat where she posted her own sensitive personal medical information. admin powers let dawn see that sonya was reading literally everything and lurking in a chat for close personal friends - socially awkward to email, but also not as insane as "you didn't like my facebook post". finally i'd feel remiss not to mention the fact that dawn publicizing her donation actually saved two more lives by convincing others two donate their own kidneys - something gone tragically underlooked with all the discussion of narcissism and "needing praise" when in actuality being public and open about this experience can save people's lives.
I agree with youβwhen I wrote this a lot of the specific information that we now know concerning the chain of communication hadn't come to light. I just haven't decided how to proceed with editing itβif I should edit in line and make a note at the end with corrections or add a paragraph at the end...but I am def aware of this and agree w you!
Among other things, this story is also specifically about Boston, the old school insularity and cliquishness of its art scene, and the unmerited sense of moral superiority of its elites.
The only good take on bad art friend
I just want to understand, if the way Dawn communicated w the publishers (and feared/suspected publishers) of her work under Sonyaβs name was βgrossβ, what was the alternative? What is the βnot grossβ way? Sonya had already lied to her, creeped on her private information, and - as she ultimately learned - literally stole her words. What would this internet accept as the way to address these things?
I actually fully agree w/ you β at the time I wrote this, I hadn't yet read the threads about the elegal docs, which made it clear that Dawn was in the right p much the whole time. Haven't decided if I'm going to edit the post yet b/c it reflects what was going on at the time I wrote it, but yes, you are right, and Dawn was right!
Iβve spent far too many hours on this whole saga and this is by far the best take Iβve read so far.
Thank you thank you thank you
very high school vibes to this story. sonya's the shitty fake-nice bully, and dawn's the ugly loser horse girl with bad acne who tattles when she finds out sonya doesn't think her "braids are pretty cool, actually." instead of deriding the bully for being an immature bitch the Internet just wants to dunk on the loser cus no one likes a do-gooder snitch
This is so fucking goodπ₯²
i think there are some inaccuracies here because the stories being shared still have traces of bias towards sonya. dawn didn't email all those organizations asking about her, but asking about their plagiarism policy, which the letter was! dawn also put in the initial invite that she was adding people she considered close friends and that anyone who wasn't comfortable with that was free to leave with no judgements, and sonya stayed in a groupchat where she posted her own sensitive personal medical information. admin powers let dawn see that sonya was reading literally everything and lurking in a chat for close personal friends - socially awkward to email, but also not as insane as "you didn't like my facebook post". finally i'd feel remiss not to mention the fact that dawn publicizing her donation actually saved two more lives by convincing others two donate their own kidneys - something gone tragically underlooked with all the discussion of narcissism and "needing praise" when in actuality being public and open about this experience can save people's lives.
I agree with youβwhen I wrote this a lot of the specific information that we now know concerning the chain of communication hadn't come to light. I just haven't decided how to proceed with editing itβif I should edit in line and make a note at the end with corrections or add a paragraph at the end...but I am def aware of this and agree w you!
It had to be said. Thank you.
I loved this. Thank you for writing it.
Becca this is outstanding